Battling Good Girl Syndrome in Bedby Chauna Myles

Good girls don’t actually enjoy sex. They just do it to please their men. Wrong! But, that is what many of us were taught as “good little girls” and as young women.

In many families, little girls have been taught - by word or actions - that sex is shameful - something to be kept a secret. Or merely the procreative duty of women everywhere. Such a negative view of sex can hamper a woman’s sexuality her entire adult life.

Such women are often  ashamed to admit that they enjoy sex, if they allow themselves to do so at all. And asking for what they want is simply out of the question.

A negative image of her sexuality will not only prevent a woman from truly experiencing the pleasures of sex, but it will kill the thrill for her man, too.

What Dr. Ruth Westheimer says about your most important sexual organ being your brain is quite true. When a “good girl” struggles with the negative lessons she has been taught about sexuality in the past, her body follows suit. An unsatisfying sex life is sure to follow.

So, if you’re a quintessential ”good girl” how can you get past the negative messages you’ve been taught about sex and learn to let go of your inhibitions? Retrain your brain.

Check out 10 Things Good Girls Can Learn from Porn Stars over at iVillage (No, it’s not what you’re thinking!) and below are two books written by sex therapists that can help you battle good girl syndrome in bed:

Chauna Myles writes multicultural women’s fiction that embraces diversity and features plenty of sizzling-hot rendezvous. Her non-fiction writings embrace inclusion and a celebration of the unique beauty that every woman possesses. She is the Non-Fiction Editor here at Pink Nighties