A Question of Sorts by Paula Tracey

In discussion with a friend - well, to be honest, a couple of friends - while analyzing a particularly HOT encounter - the question was this: was the encounter so hot because I was with an amazing lover or was it the connection I had emotionally with the man what made that night so amazing?

Seriously, I’ve had some really great and amazing sex…but this was by far the best in my entire life - ever.

So, tell me. Is it his skills as a lover, the emotional connection, or is it a combination?

I can tell you that if I was still the wide-eyed twenty-something woman I once was, I would have insisted it was emotion. But now that I am a more experienced in the sexual realm, and in this ripe time period of my early forties, I don’t know. I would never say that I didn’t love this man (let’s call him the Traveling Man), but when it gets down to the nuts and bolts of this relationship, I have doubts. We have been on and off for more than three years now. Yes, you read that right: three years. In the afterglow of what was the most amazing sex ever….as we lay there trying to catch our breath…I came out and asked him: “why is sex with you always so good?” What I didn’t say out loud, though, was if the sex weren’t so good, it would be easier to make a decision about you….and simply walk away….

Age is both a good and a bad thing. Age has given me more experience and the ability to judge when sex is mediocre, good or flat out amazing. However, part of age (and early onset menopause) has made my body rarely as responsive. The Traveling Man isn’t my only lover, but I can honestly say that none of my other lovers are able to bring me to orgasm during intercourse each and every time.  Now, oral sex is a different story, but we are talking old fashioned cock-in-vagina.  The Traveling Man, however, is always able to get me to come. In fact, on this occasion, I came three times while I was being fucked….plus several delicious little orgasms with his amazing hands. (We will talk about the whole squirting thing another time, okay?)

This encounter was weeks ago….and just thinking about it makes my heart race…my body throb and ache..my nipples erect. I can still feel every moment of it….his hands on my body…his mouth on me…..our sweaty bodies…my begging him to make me come…his words…his ragged breathing…

I am left with the doubt and these questions playing about in my mind: Is it enough to tie us together? Is it the sex or the connection that brings us together after we seem to drift apart? Am I still crazy about him because the sex is so amazing? Or is the sex so amazing because I’m crazy about him?

Tell me, please….what do you think?

Paula Tracey is a tarnished Southern Belle that has discovered that she likes behaving like a man. Multiple lovers mean that the various needs in her life will be met. Her upbringing, however, ties her to certain traditions and you will never find her wearing white shoes before Easter or after Labor Day.